This is the journey of one control freak wife and one gentle spirited husband as they seek to balance their

roles in their home
and bring an extra measure of joy to their already happy marriage.

Friday, March 18, 2011

a happy month

Last night marked the end of our first month of DD.  I was so scared when we started out on this journey.  Would Steve really participate?  Were my expectations realistic?  Would it make a difference?  Steve and I are both very pleased with where we are at this point.  We have come a lot further than we thought that we would in this short of a time.  I credit that to all the other couples out there who have shared their journeys via blogs.  It really gave us the foundation we needed to discuss what we wanted and how we were going to go about it. We thank you so much for taking the time to share.  It obviously hasn't been perfect, mostly due to my control freak, perfectionist, impatient nature that wanted to go from 0 to 60mph instantly.  I personally really want to thank those who offered gentle correction, great advice, and encouragement in your comments.  I look forward to the many months and years ahead.

We are going to spend some time this weekend looking at the list and choosing some new things to put on it.  We feel I am ready to take on some more challenges; I haven't had to have a punishment spanking since Sunday.  The closet time in the morning and doing maintenance several times this week really made a difference.  Steve did add a set of 20 strikes with the switch to Wednesday's maintenance because I let the "b" word slip during a lunch outing with him and C (my adult daughter).  Steve said he didn't feel it was that big a deal, but for consistency's sake there had to be some kind of consequence.  I so appreciate his tremendous growth as a disciplinarian.  

From reading many of the blogs, I know there has been the occasional naysayer about domestic discipline, and sometimes it gets really ugly.  I find that interesting. Overall most people seem comfortable with the idea of spanking in connection with sex, but if someone wants to use it to make a positive behavior change there is something wrong with them.  All I know is that in one short month, I am much happier with myself, more at peace with myself, and more productive in general.  We are on the path and going to stay there for as long as we feel we should, regardless of what others might think. We are happy and that is what matters to us.


  1. If they say "neigh", then I say "giddy up". It's your life. They are just a little short of imagination, that's all.

  2. Congratulations on one month!

    I've lived my whole life convinced that I know what I need better than most everyone else, ESPECIALLY strangers on the internet, so let the naysayers nay away.

    The human experience is incredibly complex and tumultuous and we are lucky enough to have not only untangled our psyches enough to determine what we need but also found willing and able partners.

    You are steps ahead of me in this journey, and I'm glad that you are willing to share your triumphs as they come. It gives me hope and makes me excited for the future.