We have hashed out the rules. We have agreed that I will get a punishment spanking for the following reasons:
1. forgetting to take doses of medicine (this was on my list - I have a chronic illness that requires maintenance medication four times a day to keep it under control - I forget all the time and consequently lapse into illness - my husband had tried reminding me in the past and would get a nasty response for his efforts)
2. yelling or using sarcasm in a biting way (my list- my dad was an army drill sergeant and verbally abusive - I don't like hearing him coming out of me - Steve revealed to me that it hasn't bothered him personally, but he doesn't like it when I'm yelling at our children.)
3. using profanity (Steve's list - he told me he can't stand it when I use profanity. According to him a woman with the intelligence, outer beauty, and inner beauty that I have should not be using profanity. He has never revealed that before now. We've been married for 15 years. I'm wondering if he ever would have had I not asked him to enter into a DD relationship.)
4. failing to clean up after myself in a reasonable amount of time (reasonable tbd by him) (Steve's list - I have to admit I'm not surprised by this one - I knew that he didn't like that)
There were other things on our lists, but we wanted to start out simple so we choose two from each of our lists that we felt would make the most difference in my life personally and as a family.
If I break more than one rule in a day, I will receive a punishment spanking, receive a break (length of time tbd by Steve) and then receive my second one. If there are more than two infractions in one day, the additional punishment spankings will be rolled over onto the next day. Maintenance will be on Wed. and Sat. for now. If I have a punishment spanking coming on Wed. or Sat. it will be in lieu of the maintenance (for now). If I am very well behaved and find that I am desiring a spanking in between maintenance, we have selected a benign behavior so that I can non-verbally express my need to him, without resorting to "bratting". This is completely exclusive of erotic spanking which we will continue to engage in whenever we are both desiring to do so.
So those are our rules. Any thoughts?