This is the journey of one control freak wife and one gentle spirited husband as they seek to balance their

roles in their home
and bring an extra measure of joy to their already happy marriage.

Sunday, February 20, 2011

The journey has begun...

Saturday, Feb. 19, 2011 - Well the journey has begun.  Although Steve hasn't finished the book I gave him, I talked him into spanking me tonight.  I told him I wanted us to experiment with real spanking, like a rehearsal.  That was somewhat of a mistake because I still hadn't communicated with him well enough for him to understand what I want.  The first part of the spanking was a hand spanking that was very sexual (not surprising since any spanking we have ever done previously was play/erotic). I would have thoroughly enjoyed it if that was what I had in mind. It was harder than he normally would do.  I mean I still enjoyed it, and I didn't criticize him for it because it was my fault for being too impatient to wait until we had really talked it all out. (guess I need to add impatience to my list of things to change!)  We continued the spanking with a paddle.  He was doing a good job of making my butt sting, but it was tolerable...too tolerable.  I was really hoping for the cathartic relief of a good cry like when I was a child, but it just didn't hurt enough.  He stopped because my "sit spot" was starting to bruise pretty badly and it was more than he could bare.  I can tell this is going to be a problem.  I just bruise way to easily...long before I experience true pain.  The bruises look way worse than they feel.  I'm sitting at our dining room table in a t-shirt and panties on a hard dining room chair to write this journal entry and it doesn't bother me.  Sure there is a little tenderness, but not "wince when I sit".  We are going to have to find a solution to that problem.  We need to find an implement that will really hurt without as much bruising (or my husband is just going to have to get over the bruises).  Maybe I'll troll some of the other blogs and see if anyone has any suggestions.  Maybe I'll get lucky and someone will read mine and give me some suggestions.  


  1. "We need to find an implement that will really hurt without as much bruising"
    --I have an answer for you. But please don't hate me if you follow my advice...beause you may want to. :p If you want something that really hurts and doesn't bruise, get a cane. They really aren't expensive. They can leave welts, but he probably won't need to go that hard. Let me assure you, they work.

  2. EEK! I'm scared of that one. I have strong childhood memories of being switched. It seems similar. I have also read warnings about making sure to use it right. We may have to give it a try for punishment though. Shivers!!!

  3. Well...I'm sure there are crazy sadists out there who don't try to use it carefully. But you could probably trust it to your husband. He seems careful and caring. :)
    It's just an idea. Maybe like a final resort kind of thing.
    Seriously, my advice is don't get one. They are evil. :p But if you decide that nothing hurts enough...canes just may be the answer.

  4. Uhmm...not that being a tad bit sadistic is a bad depends on what you like. I'm all for drawing out the latent sadism :p. Sorry, okay, I'll be quiet now. :)

  5. I know im reading this blog a little late but my hubby uses the cane o me all the time. It was me who purchased it out of curiosity. It hurts like hell and he only uses it for punishment - which he says is the whole point. Who asked him anyway!!! Yes, it leaves welts rather than bruises, the harder the strike the bigger and deeper the welt i have found. It can also break the skin if care is not taken. I was caned at the weekend and I can still feel it today (3 days later. I hate the thing, he loves it. It certainly leaves it mark both physically, mentally and emotionally. Good luck if you decide to use one. :)