I would have spanked myself if Steve hadn't done it. It was a really dumb mistake on my part. Here's what happened...
I was home early yesterday, so I was there when our children got home from school. My 13 year old daughter came bouncing in with one of her friends whom we allow her to hang out with usually only at our house (we have some concerns about her home life). "Hey, Mom. K has invited me to spend the night since we don't have school tomorrow. Can I go? Dad told me to ask you."
I was instantly irritated, not at her, but at Steve. In our pre-dd life, this would happen all the time. He would always tell the kids to ask me. Therefore, I was always the bad guy when I would say no. One of the things that we had discussed about his role as HoH, was that when these things came up that we would tell the children that we had to discuss it with one another first and then he would deliver the verdict. That had been going well before now. "Please, please, please, Mom!" "Ok, I guess so, but you have to be home by 10 am because you have a dentist appointment." "Thanks, Mom!" Off she went with her friend to her room to pack up and hang out until K's dad showed up.
Fast forward an hour and a half. Steve was coming in the door as our 13 year old was getting ready to head out. "Hey, sweetie, where are you going?" Imagine the look on my face. "Wait, you didn't know she was going to K's house?" "Nope." Well anyone with children could imagine the scene then.
When we were alone I told him that I was sorry. "I should have known better than to believe her. I should have called you." "Yes you should have. What on earth made you think that I had suddenly forgotten our procedure for this?" "I don't know." "Well you're going to get a spanking for it."
He tore my bottom up. He spanked me with his hand, the ping-pong paddle, the leather strap, and the acrylic paddle. "I hope you realize now that although you started this, I'm committed to trying my best to do my part. Don't let the kids fool you again." "I won't."
In case you were wondering what happened to the 13 year old, she has no phone or computer privileges for a while.