This is the journey of one control freak wife and one gentle spirited husband as they seek to balance their

roles in their home
and bring an extra measure of joy to their already happy marriage.

Wednesday, June 15, 2011

the anti-date night

Marriage is not the death of great sex.   Video games are!

Steve surprised me last night by arranging for us to have a date night.  It had been a while, and we were definitely overdue.

We had a great time eating out and seeing a movie.  Tame I know, but those are two things we just love to do together.  

If you have read either of my previous posts about date nights, you know this is normally followed by spanking and really great sex.  

That didn't happen last night.   Why you ask?  

Right as we were pulling into our driveway, Steve gets a text from one of his gaming buddies that he hadn't seen or heard from in a while.

"Who's texting you this late at night?"  "John.  He and a couple of the other guys were wanting to play some Black Ops tonight, and he wanted to know if I wanted to join them. Don't worry, I'm telling him I'm on a date with my wife."

After being married to Steve for fifteen years, I recognized the wistfulness in his voice.

"It's okay babe.  I know with his schedule you guys don't get to link up much anymore.  I won't be upset if you want to play.  I've enjoyed our date, but I'm pretty tired."

"Are you sure?"  
"Yep, I'm sure."

"I love you. [grin]"

"I know. [grin]"

Fast forward to today.

"Are you well-rested?"     "Yeh, why?"

"I intend to play with you tonight."     "You do?  What if John calls you tonight?"

"I'm going to tell him that my wife has some features that my X-Box doesn't, and I fully intend to explore them tonight."     "Well if you play well enough, I might give you access to the bonus features."  "Deal!"

I intend to work him hard tonight.  His reserve copy of the new Duke Nukem is going to be released soon.  I'll be a gaming widow for at least a week, if not two.

Yep, video games.... the nemesis of great sex everywhere! 


  1. Agreed. Before Z and I started TTWD we fought about this all the time (our first year of marriage) and one day I came home and found that he posted his Playstation on ebay because it was causing too many problems between us. A couple years ago I surprised him and got him one for Christmas. :)

  2. Oh that's funny. But see? You were rewarded for your suttle compromise. Very cool on both your parts.

    Maybe if you work him like a dark horse running, he won't go back.


  3. You are a very sweet and understanding wife......I bet you get a big reward tonight.....have fun!!!

  4. That was really giving and understanding of you! My husband does not play video games, but he has his other hobbies. Hope you had fun later!

  5. Ashley - yeh, but I didn't expect to be still dealing with it when he was 43 years old!

    Kelly - ROTFL!!! I'm good, but I'm not that good.

    K's sweetie and Stormy - Thanks, he did make it up to me and it was worth the wait.