This is the journey of one control freak wife and one gentle spirited husband as they seek to balance their

roles in their home
and bring an extra measure of joy to their already happy marriage.

Friday, May 13, 2011

empowered

"What's wrong?"    "What do you mean?"  
 
"You have been very withdrawn the last couple of days, and today you have been really snippy.  Are you feeling ok?"    "Yeh, I'm fine. I have a lot on my mind.  I'm sorry if I've been snippy."

"It's ok.  Sometimes you need to be able to let it out.  I'd rather you let it out on me than on someone else.  It doesn't bother me."   "I know it doesn't, which is one of the things I love about you.  I really don't want you to be my verbal punching bag though.  I think sometimes when I am pushing you, it's because I'm wanting you to push back."

"Wait a minute.  This is because you haven't had a real thorough spanking in a while, isn't it?"    "Probably.  I'm missing the structure, but I'm not upset with you at all.  It is just the way it has had to be recently.  I'm annoyed with myself for being a grouch."

"Well, if you need the grouchiness spanked out of you, then get over here and we'll take care of it right now."    "Right now?"  "Right now!"

I got a thorough hand spanking, ten medium and ten hard strokes of the cane, twenty strokes of the lexan paddle, he had me count out forty strokes of the strap, and a follow-up hand spanking.  I cried from the beginning because I had so much pent up emotion.  It also hurt like crazy because it had been a while for that type of spanking.  I feel worlds better though.  Like a hundred pounds of bricks have been lifted off my shoulders.  I feel like I could tackle the world.  That seems crazy to me, but that's the way I feel...empowered.    

6 comments:

  1. Hi,
    I'm new to blogging and found your blog. I like this post because it's so cool that your husband seems to know what you really want/need.

    Kitty

    p.s. If you're interested please take a look at my blog.

    http://kitty-sweetsurrender.blogspot.com/

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  2. Thanks, I'll check it out.

    Steve and I are new to dd. It has not been quite 3 months. It has been a very interesting journey since I am the naturally dominant one. Steve has always been very perceptive of my feelings and overall has done very well in learning this new role of HoH.

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  3. I'm very bossy, but Daddy doesn't let me EVER boss him:)! He's the Dominant in our relationship...always has been.

    We still argue (what married couple doesn't), but it pales in comparison to our early days.

    We are very new to ttwd! I've only had one true punishment spanking.

    Kitty

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  4. Honestly, I think that's what I need!!!! Glad u feel better.

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  5. Kitty - Welcome to the club! I hope you enjoy your new lifestyle.

    CedenoGems - Have you tried telling him that you need one? Steve is dangerously close to a mind reader, but I sometimes still need to tell him what's going on.

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  6. Thanks, JW! I wish it would move along at a faster pace. Daddy is so busy with work that nothing seems to happen...I'm a very impatient Kitty;)!

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