This is the journey of one control freak wife and one gentle spirited husband as they seek to balance their

roles in their home
and bring an extra measure of joy to their already happy marriage.

Friday, July 8, 2011

A Good Week

It is always good when a plan works the way you hope.  

Steve's idea for transition time has really made a difference for us.  

Knowing that I have that time to look forward to has helped me feel less stressed at work.  Having the time has also helped me feel more peaceful at home and to relish the change from dominant to submissive each day.  

Each day has been a little different, but the components have remained the same.  I spend about fifteen minutes by myself doing absolutely nothing but sit or lay down, close my eyes, and breathe deeply. This is followed by my act of submission.  

If it is corner time then it is only about five to ten minutes.  If Steve decides it is a butt plug day then he comes in and has me strip and he puts it in.  It stays in until he says otherwise. If it extends beyond my transition time then I am to dress and continue with my evening as if it isn't there.

You haven't lived until you are sitting at the dining room table helping your child with math homework with a butt plug in your rear!

My favorite day was actually this past Saturday.  I had worked that day (which is very rare as I usually don't for religious reasons), and when I got home it was a beautiful afternoon.  I texted Steve to let him know that I was going to the porch swing in front of the shed instead of coming into the house for transition time. I received back a text that said, "That's perfect, I'll meet u out there in a little while."

Steve joined me after about ten minutes, and we continued to swing while we snuggled.

"I have a surprise for you."

"You do?"

"Guess what came in today."

"The Loopy Johnny?"  (We had ordered one from The London Tanners

  "Yep.  It is hanging in the shed.  I was actually thinking about trying it out when you got home.  Then you decided to come out to the swing.  It seems like the perfect opportunity."

"Where are the kids?"  

"[The eldest] took them to see a movie.  They'll be gone for at least another hour.  What do you say?  Should we have a little fun and get maintenance done too?"

"Sounds good, but do we have to go in the shed? It's going to be hot in there this time of day."

"Actually, I was thinking right here."

Although you can see the front of our house from the street the rest of the property is very private.

"Okay, I'm game."

"Great! You strip while I go get it."

I'd read from others that the loopy johnny was something else, but I was surprised by the intensity of it.  Overall, we both like it.  It is quiet in comparison to the strap.  I have a feeling it will be used often.   

Between the transition time and the almost daily maintenance spankings, I have to say that it has been a good week.  I have been feeling almost euphoric.  However, I'm bracing myself for the fact that in real life things don't stay blissful forever.  There will be a bump in the road, so I'm just going to appreciate the good while it lasts.


  1. That is great news. Sometimes it is great to have a few minutes to unwind and let your mind change gears. Not sure I could do the plug and math homework at the same time though. Our LJ is reserved for serious punishment and then only for the last few swats. That thing terrifies me.

  2. I think you're the first one ever not to complain about the loopy johnny. I've never tried it, but curiosity killed the cat!! I have a very short commute to work, too, and there are days I REALLY wish it was a long drive so I could unwind. Glad you had a good week!!!

  3. Sounds like Steve knew just what you needed! I'm glad the plan is working well! Sara

  4. Awesome...I have thought about you several times this week actually. I don't go to work everyday but I've noticed the need for me to *get away* for at least 15 minutes of quietness when I get really agitated during the seems to help a lot. Z has me go get in the shower often when he senses it's all *a bit too much.*

  5. This sounds like it is a fantastic plan. I am very happy that this is helping your stress level that will be a good thing for not calling your marriage but your health. We all need down time.


  6. your time alone to unwind and transform to your submissive self sounds wonderful. Way to go waht a great idea
    And i would love to try a loopy johnny. We were looking at some sites on Friday for some more implements. We were looking at cane_iac and looking at their cane rug beaters - he was very keen on one of those but it was out of stock :(
    there are some loopy johnnies on sale on ebay i might try one of those or even on cane_iac there is something very similar to an LJ (damn thats the same as my initials - oh is that sayign something??????? ) i might just have to try -

  7. Sounds like both of you have a fantastic relationship. I have always felt that alone time, whether simply relaxing or doing something one wants to do, is great for everybody. Great idea!

  8. I wonder if they are any good for keeping it quieter when there are others around like in a hotel away? My wife finds the sound embarrassing when others are around and so it doesn't happen then. I experimented with a large comb which was more silent but not so satisfying. It is better than nothing though.

  9. Great blog!
    We bought the domestic paddle from the London Tanners. Packs a real sting - but my hubby likes the way it feels in his hand, and if he's happy - so am I. (Daddy Jack has been maintaining me all week with it)