tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3480881045315877151.post981220570301166876..comments2023-10-24T03:52:39.763-04:00Comments on growing with domestic discipline: at home alone strugglingJWhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09848056143866645957noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3480881045315877151.post-78048580186565802642012-04-09T23:56:14.428-04:002012-04-09T23:56:14.428-04:00Do you have a safe word? If not, get one. That w...Do you have a safe word? If not, get one. That way your husband doesn't have to be a mind reader. Can you express to him your need to be spanked to your limit? If you both agree on a safe word then you can warn him when you think you are close and he will be able to do what you have asked and know that you are safe.<br />You could have an agreement that he asks you after his reaches what he is comfortable with,"have you had enough/learned your lesson? If you answer is no and there is a safe word, he can continue and ask again and again and again. The safe word will save you both. <br />Write him a letter/email explaining exactly what you what. It may save you both from months of trail and error. You feeling frustrated and him feeling like he is not getting it. Tell him clearly i.e. I want to not sit the next day or something to that effect. We girls might get PMS but the guys never have ESP. Say what you want and hold on tight. : ) <br /><br />MJimzKitty9zhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08664617891691648231noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3480881045315877151.post-32916374571051716642011-02-26T00:02:15.787-05:002011-02-26T00:02:15.787-05:00Well, I suppose I just felt like I might be tellin...Well, I suppose I just felt like I might be telling you things you already knew...but thanks for your comment as well. :)<br />I'm glad it helped a little....<br />:)Bonnie-johttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06652217097686225161noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3480881045315877151.post-66199455383611175792011-02-24T21:23:47.673-05:002011-02-24T21:23:47.673-05:00Your words were very comforting and helped to put ...Your words were very comforting and helped to put things into perspective. I have to remind myself that it has only been 6 days. I'm not a patient person (will have to go on the list at some point). I have a fantastic husband. Your right in that the simple fact he is willing to try to travel this path with me is something to be grateful for. What took me by surprise today was the duality of wanting to be spanked relentlessly and the deep feeling of rebellion in the same breath. I had read of the phenomenon on other DD blogs, but it is unsettling when you are experiencing it yourself for the first time. By the way, you are inferior to no one. Less life experience does not make one inferior, just less experienced. The fact that you have embraced yourself and your needs at age 20 and it took me an extra 20 years to do that means you're way ahead of the game.JWhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09848056143866645957noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3480881045315877151.post-18117950694105472202011-02-24T18:43:05.220-05:002011-02-24T18:43:05.220-05:00JW, I don't have much advice, as I feel like y...JW, I don't have much advice, as I feel like your inferior...I haven't been married. I'm only 20, and such...I'm sure you have lots of wisdom. From the posts I've read, you seem to be thinking things through well. After you talked about your list of rules, you said that you and your husband have a "signal" so he knows you want a spanking and that way you won't be bratting. That rule alone shows forsight and steady thinking. <br />I just want to tell you to hold on!!! These things don't happen overnight or in weeks...but in months, and probably years. He's never going to be "worthy". I would suggest maybe finding some other couple's sites who are involved in DD and maybe talking with them. My blog is kind of a smorgasborg of stuff...although I would say my boyfriend and I are DD.<br />Everyone is different. But your husband seems to already be growing and learning in order to help you. I think most guys wouldn't be able to handle the discipline aspect if they weren't already wishing to do it. I had a boyfriend who absolutely refused. So that fact that he's accepting this about you is in itself a wonderful thing. <br />I really understand what you mean when you said you need to be spanked until you're "begging for mercy"...that feeling does not go away. But its intensity can and the guilt of holding that in can...I hope that you get that spanking. <br />Part of me cheered when I read on a prior post of your's that your husband sort of stopped spanking on your first punishment one because he wanted to suddenly spank you hard and fast and it scared him. <br />Keep talking. :) Keep hoping. And keep looking at the good things. From what you've been saying, there are some really good things that have happened. <br />Hugs,<br />Bonnie-joBonnie-johttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06652217097686225161noreply@blogger.com